The other night I came on here and posed a question, wondering what other people would do if they were faced with a situation where they could potentially surprise an old friend that they had a falling out with. You'll recall that I had a situation like that arise, as I found out that somebody I hadn't spoken to in two years was graduating from college this coming Wednesday night. A couple of early comments leaned towards just going to the graduation and extending a handshake and a congratulations. I actually thought it was a pretty decent idea at first, but the more I thought of it, the more I thought that if he was still harboring anger towards me, it could potentially ruin his night for him. A commenter later in the day expressed the same sentiment, and suggested that I let the person know I was thinking of showing up.
After a lot of soul searching and a lot of thought, I ultimately decided that I should test the waters first. I left a comment on the person's MySpace blog about his impending graduation (since MySpace lets you comment on the blogs of people not on your friends list). I told him that I'd initially thought to just show up, but that I didn't want to ruin the night for him. I told him that I just wanted to offer my congratulations and that I'm proud of him for graduating.
Earlier tonight when I checked my MySpace, I had a new message. It was from my old friend, with the subject line "Long Time." In it, he told me how he felt when everything happened, and that he recently decided that no matter what has happened in the past, he wanted to start with a clean slate with everybody. He also told me that he came to this realization the day after he finally saw a movie I'd recommended to him thousands of times before. I guess it's not just being a member of Fight Club that makes you think of things differently.
I replied to his message with one of my own. I reiterated that I'm considering going to his graduation and expressed interest in hanging out sometime soon.
So, in taking the advice of the person who suggested testing the waters first, I think I've made the right decision.